I was a goth at school. Wearing primarily black, listening to sad sad songs, an elevated feeling of romantic doom.

Goths’ motto is “Memento mori“. Remember death. It is inevitable. We are all going to end up there.

This motto may seem excessively gloomy to some, like “ah those weird-ass goth teens hanging round cemeteries”, but the older I get the more I realise that it actually transcends everything. It’s more than a goths’ motto.

You may or may not believe in God, in Jesus, in Krishna, in reincarnation. However, you cannot not believe in death because it is as real as life.

So, if we are all going to die, why should we be afraid?

Why should we live the life we don’t enjoy?

Why should we be enslaved by our past hurt and limiting beliefs?

And while I appreciate and totally understand that some traumas can never be fully healed,

Yet I think the only meaning in life is to try and break free.

From our fake identities, from everything unnecessary and harmful we’ve accumulated over our life (or lives for those of you who do believe in reincarnation), from everything we think is good or right but deep down knowing it’s not for us, it’s not really us.

This is including: limiting beliefs, ego-driven thoughts and fears, societal pressures, wants and needs that are not really ours, comparisons, pain, hurt, superstitions, stereotypes, paranoias, addictions, judgements, any mental constructs and emotional baggage that don’t serve us.

If there is even a small chance for us to be feeling free during this life rather than never (or after, for those of you who do believe in reincarnation), why not take it. Free to be yourself, your unique awesome self.

Memento mori, and go after your dreams❤️

Sincerely yours,
Self-Love Academy